Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions and/or words of another. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness or even vengeance. Choosing to hold on to the hurt will only cause more suffering within your life. I will go through a few reasons why forgiveness can be one of the most important decisions in personal growth. Forgiveness is for your benefit. It is truly not for the other person at all. As long as you are feeling like a victim, you are carrying a heavy burden. Forgiveness allows you to set that” baggage” down and simply walk away from it. Free. Forgiving helps us to grow. Once you have decided to forgive those who have hurt you, you open the door for more productive and useful happy thoughts. Self-centered complaining, although bringing a release, is short-term and never really works to bring about peace and joy. Forgiveness is empowerment. When you forgive those who have done you wrong, you get your power back. Regarding that situation, you are now in control due to this choice made and can begin your healing.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you deny the other person’s responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without accepting their actions/behavior. It is so easy to get caught up in holding grudges and becoming angry, sad or confused. I have been there so I know exactly how difficult it can be when you are hurt. Especially if it is someone who you have chosen to love and trust. The thing is, holding on to the resentment and the hostility will only take root deep inside. I strongly believe in the connection between emotions and physical well-being. That act or wrong may always remain in your life but when you practice forgiveness, it lessens its grip on you. Forgiveness is a commitment to change. This does not mean that you have to re-connect with the person whose responsible for the hurt. Not at all. You are not required to be “friends” or to even engage in conversation, if you do not feel comfortable. Choosing to forgive is a personal act and when you are ready, you will no longer define your life by how you have been hurt. You will begin to experience valuable and enriching connectedness with others. Try your best to let it go! Trust your intuition and your belief in your higher power as well as a support system, whatever it takes. “Imagine with all your mind, believe with all your heart, achieve with all your might!”