Self-discipline is defined as “The ability to control one’s feelings and overcome one’s weaknesses; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it.” I believe it is the most important skill, essential in every area of life. When you are first brought to the idea of self-control as a means to success, there are moments of doubt that set in. It does not mean being harsh to yourself, or living a limited lifestyle. Self-control is a sure sign of inner strength, control over yourself, your actions and reactions. This skill is not easy, it requires practice and determination. It is a continuous effort to persevere with your goals until you have accomplished them. Self-discipline is a power that allows you to stick to your decisions without the back-n-forth mental tug of war you may experience. It manifests as a dedication which can help overcome addictions, procrastination, and laziness. One of the aspects of this skill is the ability to delay instant gratification and pleasure, in favor of a greater gain, which will require much time and persistence to obtain it. Trying over and over again is a part of life and should be recognized for the tenacity it instills. Distractions and temptations are also a major part of life, they cannot be ignored. At some point, you may even feel like it is one right after another, barely leaving room for you to think clearly. I want to reiterate my belief in daily meditation. I find that when you can take a few minutes out of the day to center, breathe, focus and reflect it brings you closer to your tasks and makes it easier to move forward, despite failures and setbacks. There will always be challenges and problems on the path to success but there is hope that you can rise above them each time. I also feel that some obstacles can be avoided all-together if you are serious about your self-improvement. It is a matter of tuning into your awareness. Start thinking about the results you receive when you are undisciplined, the consequences of your actions.
Here is a link to DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) self-help skills as well. You will find in-depth explanations of the “wise mind” http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/wise_mind.html
“Discipline NOT desire determines your destiny”