Say YES To Life

I have written a post about acceptance :

Distress tolerance has been an emerging construct in psychology and it refers to an individual and their capacity to handle negative emotional or other aversive states. It also includes the behavioral act of withstanding distressing internal states caused by some type of stressor. One skill that I have found essential in managing depression and/or coping with a mental illness is in “Turning The Mind” It is like facing a fork in the road. You have to turn your mind toward the acceptance road, and away from the road of rejecting reality

TURNING THE MIND is choosing to accept.

The CHOICE to accept does not in itself equal acceptance. It just puts you on the path.


OBSERVE that you are not accepting. (Look for anger, bitterness, annoyance; avoiding emotions, saying “Why me?”, “Why is this happening?” “I can’t stand this” “It shouldn’t be this way. )

Go within yourself and MAKE AN INNER COMMITMENT to accept reality as it is.

DO IT AGAIN, over and over. Keep turning your mind to acceptance each time you come to the fork in the road where you can reject reality or accept it.

DEVELOP A PLAN for catching yourself in the future when you drift out of acceptance.

*DBT Skills Training Dr. Marsha Linehan

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
            I fall in
I am lost…I am helpless
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street,
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But it isn’t my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in…it’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street. “